Marvins' Tips

Marvins' Tips

Friend to Lover – Are You Falling for a Friend?

Am I falling for a friend??

Falling for a friend is like a little dance under the spotlight, especially when you don’t really know how to dance. You jiggle your feet awkwardly with your dance mate, and hope that the audience would never figure that you don't know.

To your surprise, it wouldn't take the audience long to figure your secret out. The same goes with awkward friendships and people who want to go from friends to lovers. They'll notice something weird is going on!! Haven’t you ever been teased with someone, at the very first instance when you blushed or stared a wee bit longer at a ‘friend’? Sometimes Even stealing their photos so could just look at it whenever you wanted to?

Friend to lover or just friends?

Do you want to go from friend to lover? Of course, you want to be a lover, don’t you? You… Yes you naughty little boy! Hey, I’d do the same if I were falling for a friend too. So just stop with the ‘were just friends’ class act.

Listen, wanting to go out is sweet, getting physical and cuddly is sweeter, but there are a few things you need to know before you take the icy plunge. First of all, ask yourself if your friend’s love is truly what you need or its just a crush you have that will soon be dead. Sometimes you get jealous when your friend hooks up with someone else as I call it "killing you softly" .

Going from a friend to lover is a big transition, and you can ask yourself  if you’re falling for a friend a million times but it really depends on a lot of other circumstances too. And it’s tricky business. Most importantly, you need to remember that a lover and a friend are two different people, even if it’s the same person.

I remember one time when I hooked up with a friend a few years ago. She was what I had always wanted, sweet, loving and full of love and humor. But once we did start going out, I saw that she was quite stubborn, just like me. We used to argue a lot, and eventually 2 months after going from a friend to lover, we ended the relationship. It was a bad way to end up a friendship that had lasted two years. We used to like each other a lot when we were friends, but falling for a friend asked for a lot more than just fun times in the open and one thing I never knew is that she never trusted me from day one as she knew my character.

Going from friend to lover – The difference between being friends and falling for a friend

From experience I would say there isn't too much of a difference really. When you’re a good friend, for starters, you could ask your pal if they’re wearing that cute silk underwear they picked up the last time they shopped. But if you’re going out with them, you could probably take a peek too!!

When you’re a best friend, you share all the deepest secrets, like how many girls your dating at the moment and you’re always there for each other no matter what. When you go from friend to lover, you do all of that except telling each others your secrets and ooh.. one More thing, You take each other’s pants off!(that's the Main Difference)

Whatever you do, just do ruin the friendship cause its way worth more than the relationship. From experience I'd say its better you keep it that way or Just start looking for a new Best-friend..lol